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In my opinion, communication is a key factor to be successful due to the importance of conveying, understanding and learning. My strength in communication are being a good listener and exercising intra-communication. While my weakness in communication is building bonds and cohesiveness with others.
In my opinion, communication is a key factor to be successful due to the importance of conveying, understanding and learning. My strength in communication are being a good listener and exercising intra-communication. While my weakness in communication is building bonds and cohesiveness with others.
Firstly, I believe in listening as one should
always seek to understand, then to be understood. Everyone has their own
opinions and perspective and longs to be listened and agreed upon. This is
partially the reason there are arguments and how a debate could go on and on
without an agreeable conclusion. Therefore, I have always believed that only by
being a good listener, can one truly connect and relate with another to work
under mutual understandings.
Secondly, I constantly reflect situations with
my core principle – “To change a situation, first change ourselves. To change
ourselves, first change perception.” In life, especially in the working
environment, inevitable situations may arise and sometimes, there is nothing
much that could be done. For example, a System Engineering Electromechanical
System (SEEMS) student may find that the workload and expectations are too
demanding. In spite of this, nothing could be done except for being more
hardworking which first requires him/her to have a change of perception by
having the foresight that he/she would be valued higher upon graduation by
prospective employers. In addition, being emotional human beings, emotions may
sometimes influence us to act against our values. Therefore, I also make it a
habit of reflecting on my actions and try to understand the other party by
putting myself in the other person’ shoe. For instance, when I get annoyed by someone constantly critisicing me, I would often critisice back. After critisicing and walking off, I would realise the negative emotions and acknowledge that I could have responded better. Moments after, I would usually follow up with an apology to maintain the relationship.
Lastly, challenges I face are building bonds
and being cohesive with others. I have difficulty having interesting casual
conversations with others as I am rather soft spoken and afraid of offending
others. I tend to review my speech in my mind which creates a communication
barrier. For example, in an attempt to know someone I have newly met, I may be afraid to constantly ask questions as I fear that they might find me annoying. Hence, I put myself in a contradictory position knowing that asking questions is the way to find common interests, yet, it may also potray myself as being too nosy.
My objectives by the end of this module are to
improve on building rapports and gain confidence during casual conversation to
resolve the communication barrier, hopefully improving work efficiency and
relations.
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ReplyDeleteHi Andy, I agree with you that we should always listen and understand during communication to truly connect with each other. Just like what I wrote in my blog post, instead of listening and understanding what others are saying, naturally everyone only want to talk about their own opinions. This may result in unnecessary arguments and dispute. Listening before talking, understand before commenting.
ReplyDeleteRegarding to your concern with building bonds with others, you can try to approach people and start with small little talk first. Try to find some common interest that both of you have through the small talks and that might be able to help you create bond with that person. I had tried it before and it worked for me. Have more confident with yourself.
Hey Andy,
ReplyDeleteI agree strongly with your second point. To change ourselves we must first change our own perception. Rarely in life do things go smoothly, as such people should try to be more open-minded and accepting toward change, whether it is sudden or not. For example I myself have had instances in my engineering project where I became enraged at sudden change/an obstruction because I refused to accept the fact that I had to do things a different way.
Also, I disagree with your weakness of having difficulty building bond and cohesiveness with others. As long as I have known you, you seem like an open person who is not afraid to voice out your opinions or give suggestions. However, a suggestion I could give you is that you could try to ask a person questions and find common interests, from there you can form a bond.
Good day!
-Sean Tay
Hi Andy,
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that being a good listener is important for connecting with other people. By listening to understand what the other party is saying, we can appreciate their perspective to reduce misunderstandings. Your core principle is one that I agree with. As we cannot change other people but we can at least change ourselves to make our situation better. To help with building bonds with other people, you could try to find some common topics to talk about and form a connection.
-Melanie Tan